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Personal, job-related conundrum

Amy

Good evening all

I am in an absolute conundrum and I just don’t know what to do. I’m aware no one can give me the answer but I need some guidance.

I resigned from my job and found another job. It is in a different sector.

The reason I’m leaving my current job, is because the areas I look after are quite a significant distance from me and the expectation to visit them is increasing, previously it has been manageable but this will change. The rest of the time I work from home. The distance to travel is approx 3.5-4 hours each way (in a day or overnight stays) which is a challenge to me with children

My new job is closer to home, working from home , occasional office visits for meetings etc.

Since resigning my line manager has offered me a multitude of options such as saying I can only travel in certain days, offering to change areas (albeit the closest areas are still some distance from me) she has made it clear she does not want to lose me

I absolutely do not know what to do. I like my job, but some part of me wishes for a new challenge. My current job is very flexible and I’m not sure I will have the same degree of flexibility. I have a degree of ‘protection’ in my job and I will be the new person in my new job. I like the idea of a new sector and new challenges but I also like familiarity and have great relationships where I work now. I would feel terrible to have accepted my new job to then withdraw, likewise, my role hasn’t been replaced but a more junior member in my current company is going to be acting up, it’s likely they’d have some opportunities still but it won’t be a full acting up, however has I said my line manager has made it very clear ahead of would do what it takes to make me stay.

I really don’t know what to do, I don’t want to let anyone down. I don’t know what’s best for me. The new job could be great but I could lose all the flexibility I need with having a small family. , but I could stay in my job and not be happy in a few months as I still struggle with having to travel more frequently and further than I’d like.

Any words of wisdom or advice . Honestly my brain thinks one thing one day and something the next to the point I almost don’t want either job now

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  • If i am struggling with a big decision like this, I tend to write the options on pieces of paper and draw one out of a hat.

    This sounds a very dodgy way of making decisions, but I do it to find out how I feel when I see the option I picked, and don't always stick to the one I picked out. If I feel relived or happy, when I see what I've chosen then, I can be fairly confident that that is actually what I do really want to do. Conversely, if I feel disappointed, then I know that deep down, what I really want to do is the other option.

    Good luck with whichever option you go for
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  • If i am struggling with a big decision like this, I tend to write the options on pieces of paper and draw one out of a hat.

    This sounds a very dodgy way of making decisions, but I do it to find out how I feel when I see the option I picked, and don't always stick to the one I picked out. If I feel relived or happy, when I see what I've chosen then, I can be fairly confident that that is actually what I do really want to do. Conversely, if I feel disappointed, then I know that deep down, what I really want to do is the other option.

    Good luck with whichever option you go for
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