How Can I Handle This Situation?

My Dear Friends,

I work in HR, and I have a coworker who works in a different department and shared with me his concerns. He feels insecure about his job as his Manager keeps telling him things that discourages him and kind of keeps him insecure about his job. For example, the manager once told him that he can work without him, or asked him how long would he need to prove himself, or whether he would like to transfer to another department. 

What I know about my coworker is that he has been working almost 5 years in his current field, and we transferred together to another company within the same group. However, the expectation is higher, and he was not prepared. Now, he has all this anxiety whether he will lose his job and it is also affecting his personal life.

He wouldn't like to resign, as he is not a quitter. I asked him if he is comfortable for me to speak with my manager to see how we can go about his concerns, but I am worried that it could turn against him rather than helping him.

He discussed with me his concerns not in an official meeting, and it was rather in the parking lot. I have suggested that I can check what would be the procedure to move or cross train in a different department. However, Am I supposed to inform my Manager?

Would appreciate if you could advise me if there is a better way to handle this situation as it is my first.

Thank you for the support.

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  • If the manager is just not very skilful at giving feedback, what they really need is coaching in how to do this. If your colleague doesn’t want you to raise this subject with the manager, then perhaps you could discuss with him how he could politely but assertively discuss with the manager what feedback would be most effective in helping him to improve his performance.

    If your colleague is being bullied and you have become aware of it, even from a conversation in the car park, then you have to act on the knowledge. There’s a thread on this in the Discussion Threads of Note on the right hand side of the first page of this forum.

    You really need to get to the bottom of what is going on here before you do anything. Talk to your colleague and find out more about what he thinks and why he thinks it, and do what you can to observe the situation for yourself.
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  • If the manager is just not very skilful at giving feedback, what they really need is coaching in how to do this. If your colleague doesn’t want you to raise this subject with the manager, then perhaps you could discuss with him how he could politely but assertively discuss with the manager what feedback would be most effective in helping him to improve his performance.

    If your colleague is being bullied and you have become aware of it, even from a conversation in the car park, then you have to act on the knowledge. There’s a thread on this in the Discussion Threads of Note on the right hand side of the first page of this forum.

    You really need to get to the bottom of what is going on here before you do anything. Talk to your colleague and find out more about what he thinks and why he thinks it, and do what you can to observe the situation for yourself.
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