How Can I Handle This Situation?

My Dear Friends,

I work in HR, and I have a coworker who works in a different department and shared with me his concerns. He feels insecure about his job as his Manager keeps telling him things that discourages him and kind of keeps him insecure about his job. For example, the manager once told him that he can work without him, or asked him how long would he need to prove himself, or whether he would like to transfer to another department. 

What I know about my coworker is that he has been working almost 5 years in his current field, and we transferred together to another company within the same group. However, the expectation is higher, and he was not prepared. Now, he has all this anxiety whether he will lose his job and it is also affecting his personal life.

He wouldn't like to resign, as he is not a quitter. I asked him if he is comfortable for me to speak with my manager to see how we can go about his concerns, but I am worried that it could turn against him rather than helping him.

He discussed with me his concerns not in an official meeting, and it was rather in the parking lot. I have suggested that I can check what would be the procedure to move or cross train in a different department. However, Am I supposed to inform my Manager?

Would appreciate if you could advise me if there is a better way to handle this situation as it is my first.

Thank you for the support.

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  • Hi Eiman

    Does your colleague think the manager is doing this on purpose to upset him? Is there any truth in the remarks? If it’s deliberate, it’s bullying. On the other hand, it could be that the manager is attempting to provide useful feedback. What does your colleague think? What you do depends on what is actually going on here and it’s hard to tell.
  • Hi Elizabeth, Many thanks for your guidance. As per the colleague, the manager's intentions are good but it's the way how it is delivered. However, I will check with her how she feels, whether the manager is doing this on purpose to upset him or just giving a feedback. What should I do in case of both scenarios (whether it is just a feedback or she feels that she is being bullied)? Thank you so much Elizabeth.
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  • Hi Elizabeth, Many thanks for your guidance. As per the colleague, the manager's intentions are good but it's the way how it is delivered. However, I will check with her how she feels, whether the manager is doing this on purpose to upset him or just giving a feedback. What should I do in case of both scenarios (whether it is just a feedback or she feels that she is being bullied)? Thank you so much Elizabeth.
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