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I've always liked the approach of the e-mail "just to confirm our discussions"... It has the merit of not only recording what YOU think was agreed but also gives the other person an opportunity to correct any misunderstanding and therefore obtain full buy-in to the joint record.....

Couldn't agree more Ray. And I advise managers to do the same too with any people issues. Makes life so much easier if you've got something concrete to refer back to.

Yes if it's a retrospective situation, I just email to say something like

"It has become apparent that we recall the conversation differently. To clarify, my recommendation/advice was xxxx. If you wish to discuss so that we ensure there's no further ambiguity please let me know".

I also have The Notebook and with certain people I know it's wiser to email straight after with a summary of what was said.

Yes if it's a retrospective situation, I just email to say something like

"It has become apparent that we recall the conversation differently. To clarify, my recommendation/advice was xxxx. If you wish to discuss so that we ensure there's no further ambiguity please let me know".

I also have The Notebook and with certain people I know it's wiser to email straight after with a summary of what was said.